They usually hasten to inform me, “All his (her) friends are dating.” My quick answer is: When they’re married, and only with their spouse. Now back in the old days — the early 1980s — you met resistance for such a decision mainly from the children. You can’t wrap a moral bubble around them; they have to deal with life. A recent survey suggested that if a child has a first date between the ages of 11 and 13, he or she has a 90% probability of being sexually active during senior year in high school. Key factors to consider in granting any type of dating freedom are your child’s: • moral maturity • independence of thought • history of conduct in other social settings • strength of will • social judgment • choice of friends • responsibility toward schoolwork • respect for authority.
Circle of Moms member Lynn W., whose sixth grade son is among the youngest in his class, worries that some of his friends already have girlfriends.
"I think 11 -12 is still too young for that stuff...
Depends on the kid - and the date My parents said 16. It also depends on your relationship with your kid and how well you trust him/her, plus the boy/girlfriend and other friends.
The dating sneak attack My Dad always said no dating until I was 16.
For instance, Atkins suggests asking your child why they think someone acted the way they did, and whether they made a good or healthy choice. It's your job, as their parent, to figure out if your child is ready to handle the level of dating they have in mind.
Pay attention to how they respond when you start a conversation about dating.But moms who've already been through this stage say it needn't be cause for stress; the key is to figure out whether your particular child is truly ready to begin dating. Nichole N., a mom of five, spaning from age 6 to 25, believes that it "depends on the maturity of the child." And Angie B.adds that "The age for dating is different [in] every family," and that much depends on a particular child's level of preparedeness. Nothing at all is to be gained from premature, opposite-sex involvement through dating, or for that matter, through the phone, dances, parties, or games kids love.Then tell them, “Just three more years, and you can date.” Just kidding -- sort of.If the boy won't spend time with us, then he can't be alone with our daughter. Homeschool homies As homeschoolers, my kids are in a different social structure, so I suppose we'd just take it one day/one person at a time.