The message is, "There are other things besides my shape that I want you to register, such as the fact that I am not a he-man, and you need to re-categorize me pronto." But height does have its bonuses. All of these women weigh at least seventy-five pounds less than I do.But it’s nice that short acquaintances of mine think that hypothetical others think I’m sexy. " Thus the allure of hanging out with tall people in a hotel at their weeklong social convention for uncharacteristically tall people. They’re nearly two feet long, extending my legs to forty-five inches, and my total height to six-foot-three. My femurs, trunk, head and other parts are all normal sized. To begin with, to be extra-tall is to be somehow more than the average woman. Strangers on the subway peer upward and tell me about their childhood neighbor who was tall.
I compensate by joking openly about my height — a maneuver that I’ve noticed fat girls use. And short people seem to think that tall is synonymous with sexy.
It’s a social trick, pulling the ball back into your court by letting all your wonderful traits shine through from the get-go. They’ll point out that Olympic volleyball bombshell Gabrielle Reece is six-three, that Kimora Lee Simmons is just a smidge over six feet, that Brigitte Nielsen, six-one, starred in a rarely viewed romantic comedy called sexy.
I’d also get to live in an African rainforest, so that would be pretty awesome, too.
Our culture suggests men should always be taller than their female counterparts, and heterosexual pairings are usually depicted with a woman standing on tiptoes to kiss her man. Census records, less than 0.5 percent of women are six feet and higher.
I did, however, have strict ideas about what it meant to be feminine.
As a tall, black woman, my femininity has been constantly questioned; I’ve been asked point-blank what my gender was by complete strangers.But if you’re getting all caught up in feeling sorry for yourself, let me stop you right there, because while men are dreaming of shacking up with attractive women, women are caught up in shacking up with tall men – and naturally, in all things, there is a shortage of what’s desirable. Height and attraction: Do men and women see eye-to-eye? As it turns out research says that women also, and eventually, settle for men whom measure less than their ideal. I have seen this request come through e Harmony periodically, and as a topic of conversation in online dating communities.Recently, a woman wrote in requesting that she only be matched with men over six feet tall.I wondered how professionals in the field of dating and relationships would respond to this mindset, which I admit finding troubling.