A: I think you know this is a form of cheating, which is why you’re writing to me.This isn’t an issue of what porn you watch or what fantasies get you off—it’s about sharing a particular form of sex and intimacy with people who aren’t your wife without her knowledge, and it’s a betrayal of the monogamous commitment she believes you two have.and I get what you mean, I stopped my self after the incident I said about in my last reply, if you feel its that bad at the moment I would stop for now, for me it was all about loosing the fear of thinking about other people, I know how horrible this can be, but you will get there Kind of but I've still been doing it, I feel like I have to go back to that particular incident about the family member and think the sexual thoughts ( which weren't about family or anything ) so I can again reassure myself I wasn't masturbating thinking about the family members name it was what I was thinking of that I was masturbating about, I know that was what it was but the OCD isn't letting me believe that one minute I'm knowing that's what it was the next I'm doubting myself, I have been masturbating again yesterday and today but I'm definitely stopping now because it's causing me even more distress it makes me feel sick and evil even though I know that I wasn't masturbating about the family member it was the sexual thoughts ( which weren't about anyone I was related to ) that I was masturbating to.
And when you say "the sexual thoughts" are they normal sexual thoughts, or is the idea of feeling sexual making you feel evil/ bad etc ? When your in the bath it's normal to have a bigger urge to masturbate.
because of what happened last time with the family member? Also it's just the ocd that's turning normal thoughts about your family into sexual ones.
Today was quite a good day for me, but while in the bath I felt the urge to masturbate.
I didn't want to do it but I did and although at first it was just normal stuff, nothing bad sexually intrusive thoughts came in and although I wasn't thinking about anything bad sexually like having sex with family members the worry that I might and I just thought of them non sexually while I was masturbating came into my mind and so for hours afterwards I had to really make sure that I was climaxing while thinking about a guy and the original non bad sexual thoughts I had about non real people, but while my mum was talking to me I was doing it and I felt so bad and she mentioned the name of a family member while I was trying to masturbate but I wasn't thinking about them I would never think of any of them sexually but because she mentioned it while I was trying to masturbate it made me feel bad.
Therefore, masturbation invalidates the fast as does food and as it is one of the sins that if someone does it he or she would be violating the sanctity of this month." It is considered permissible for spouses to masturbate each other, with the only sexual acts between spouses forbidden in Islam being anal intercourse and vaginal sex during menstruation.
Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in some mazhabs of Islam based on the following evidence: First from the Qur'an: Imam Shafi’i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Qur'an (interpretation of the meaning): "And those who guard their chastity (i.e. Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame.
This is important for men who are aging as getting older can reduce some sexual functions.
It helps to ensure that your tool is in perfect working condition prior to sexual intercourse.
What you have to remember is that you don't like having these thoughs or enjoy them at all, otherwise you wouldent feel guilty, or be on this website looking for help, also I would try and avoid doing it when other people are around look for some private time, I know this sounds odd but I woudlent say stop materbating, the more you hide from your fear the bigger it gets, if you do it again and have the intrusive thoughts, think ok yea i'm thinking about this person but, I know I don't want to be and im not enjoying this even if it is sexual in nature, if it gets to weird then stop, tell your self I don't need to prove anything, because you already know you hate this, and are we not taught that god loves all people, I dont think god will look down on you, but be proud that you are trying Keep at it, you will make it.