Since then, he has driven their coed group of friends around town to movies and such on occasion for some months now.This whole time, Ive been constantly asking why is a 25 year old guy ok with hanging out with a group of 17-18 year olds? But Daughter said that Guy doesnt drink and all his friends do, and he doesnt like to hang out with a bunch of drunk people. By now, Ive met Guy a few times and he actually seems like a nice person. Her dad and I (We are divorced, but try to keep a united front in the raising of the kids) found out they have been dating for a while and are possibly having sex.
She seemed to be getting her life together-had a full time job at a school, bought a vehicle, was going to school to eventually get her teaching degree. All I know is, we really want our adult children to get a good solid future going so we can settle back and relax a bit.
I have a real 'gut' feeling that he is 'abusing' her-maybe not physically, but emotionally. I have a 24 year old daughter who only dates the loser type you describe.
I've been a lurker here for some time, and I've seen some great advice given out. I found out that my 17 (18 in 6 months) year old daughter is dating a 25 year old guy that she had previously only been friends with, and Im not sure how to handle this.
First off, my Daughter is a smart, funny, mature, independent girl with a lot of friends and who does very well in school, and is preparing for college next year. She broke up with her last boyfriend (who was her age) because he always had drama going on around him, and unlike a lot of teenagers I know, she hates drama. ) Daughter met him some months ago when her friend got her uncle (The Guy) to drive them to the mall.
We also want to be happy for our children, yet when they choose paths that lead to nowhere we don't think they are going to end up happy so that's upsetting too. She is the nicest person ever when she's NOT with these 'losers'.
Then to top that off, when our adult children don't seem to care that they are going nowhere we end up lost for words to explain, even to ourselves, how we feel. I told her once, it's like she's 'possessed', and I'm in some kind of science fiction movie.
Hello, I'm new here, and found this forum trying to figure out why my daughter is doing what she's doing! Her last one was 6 years ago, and ended up with her having my grandsons, who is the love of my life. Early in September, she met this guy-who I know now she was lying about...job/schooling etc. They went 'out'-she was the one to drive (she said she 'didn't mind', then I found it it was because he has no car! Within 2 weeks, she stormed out of here, took her son, and is living with this guy. I think it's a total lack of self esteem, even though I've done everything I could do through the years to help her with that-I guess I didn't do enough. I can find NOTHING good that 'HE' has brought to her life, and I don't see why she insists on staying. I know how you feel being angry and then wondering what you did wrong and then back to not even wanting to talk to your daughter. I don't know if just leaving your daugther alone will help or not.
They have lived with me since she found out she was pregnant. I have since found out that besides having no car, he has no job, which to me obviously means no money, no future..grandson says he sits home and plays video games! I have also found out she has quit her schooling among other things. I've gone from complete anger to 'what did I do wrong' to I don't want to talk to her-the complete gamut of emotions. It didn't help with my situation if I left her alone or bugged her off-and-on or constantly!
Except for maybe the sophistication of your gaming console, you are still an unemployed, socially inept addict hanging out in your parent’s dark-paneled basement playing video games and eating Nacho Doritos out of the bag with one hand and lazily scratching your unshowered butt with the other. I would like to directly address all of you stoners at my daughters’ high school.
But first let me state that I really don’t care what you do with your own time.
Dear Potheads Who Keep Trying to Date My Daughter: I know exactly who you are.