In the day to day of our relationships, a lot of stuff can get swept under the rug.
You could decide to target two questions a week and both of you write down your answers to them on paper or email them to each other.
Or simply share the answers verbally with each other, which has the added advantage of being able to laugh together at the responses you get. On which counts do you think you were totally wrong and on which were you right? If I promise not to get upset, can you tell me something that you’d like to change in me but don’t have the nerve to tell me?
Which three parts of my body are your personal favourites and why? If your house was on fire and you had a chance to grab only five things before leaving, they would be…If you were asked whom you would like to be born again as, the answer would be…Which is your favourite flavour of ice cream, your favourite junk food and your favourite dessert?
Can you name three qualities that attracted you when you met me/got to know me? Which is your favourite movie of all time and favourite scene in it? Whose wardrobe would you most like to possess and why?
I recommend asking some of the following questions once every few months, and others on a weekly basis.
For best results, clear all distractions from your environment.
And if we aren’t careful, our relationships are often taken for granted.
Maybe you’ve been dating or married for several years.
Or maybe you’re just a fan of soul-shaking depth that heals you to the core.
Whatever your reason, you find yourself craving the ability to go deeper with your intimate partner.
So ask one question, and listen carefully to the answer.