She now relates more with her father instead of with me,” the mother of three said, adding that she took the drastic action to protect her teenage daughter.“I would probably allow her go on a date when she turns 18 or 19. I don’t even know why she is desperate to go on a date; she should be thinking about her academics,” she said.
Two Saturdays ago, the 16-year-old daughter of a school proprietor, Mrs.
Abiodun Oyebode, had insisted on going a date with one of her male friends, despite her mother’s refusal.
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Oyebode, who is sometimes referred to as ‘Margaret Thatcher’ by some pupils in her school, because of her strict mien, said she literally had to lock all the doors in her house to prevent her daughter, Josephine, from leaving the premises.
“Since then, my daughter has refused speaking with me.
Oyebode said the issue of allowing her daughter go on dates has led to a series of heated discussions between them.
“I don’t tolerate inappropriate behaviour; but I find hard to control my only daughter.
Kauffman's advice: Before worrying about your kids and dating, teach your teens to have high self-esteem and give them opportunities to get to know other kids in socially safe environments (5 Tips for Choosing a Teen Camp is a good place to start! For more information about raising teenagers, see Taking the Angst out of Raising Teens.