Argentina is mostly catholic but there is a large jewish community too. Depending on which religion is predominant among those getting married, the ceremonies and parties will vary.I never realized how much back then I was treated as a person, than as an object. He reminded me of Rafael Ferro who plays Victor Grande in the novela Un Año Para Recordar.
The sexual revolution happened over a period of years in the states. Here it happened via the Internet and it happened in a short period. I smiled at him and told him in Spanish I was from 8 blocks away and asked him where he was from.
As an outsider I watched things change from the year 2000 until now. It is very interesting as an outsider to this culture to watch it all and still try to date and be a part of it.
There are so-called love hotels, or ‘telos’ in most cities. Because people live at home for so long that it becomes a problem when they are dating someone and can’t get it on in their bedroom at their parents.
Smooth talkers or ‘chamuyeros’ are what we would call players. When charming and innocent foreigners come to town these men will tell them exactly how beautiful they are, how much they adore them and want to be with them, how in love they are and so on and so forth. As in any country you will simply have to be aware of the players.
I found this quote by Marlene Dietrich which might sum it up: “Latinos are tenderly enthusiastic. In Argentina they throw themselves.”Expect men to approach you when you are having a night out. As a result they don’t know how to cook, clean or do the laundry. Mothers tend to call their sons more often than they do in America, say a couple of times a day, or at the very least a couple of times a week.
The sons will also call their parents for help about anything and everything. People are generally close to their family, see them at least once a week and if you end up marrying an Argentinian man, you will have the same kind of close-knit family.
Later that day, the married couple offers a banquet/party for a much larger group. If the couple has chosen a religious ceremony in addition to the civil one, then, this may take place either the same day or at a later stage with the corresponding party.
Typically, this would be a small gathering of people -relatives and very close friends- and the proceedings are usually short.
And you have to know that the “I love you” after two weeks of dating is not the same “I love you” as after six months of dating. Maybe they’ve watched too many soap operas or their Latin temper is as heated as the sun, but Argentinians can be the jealous types and they don’t mind starting a fight over it. so I thought I knew flakiness first hand – people will promise you anything and not deliver.
Take it slow and you will soon weed out the insincere ones and keep the good ones. If someone checks you out for too long in a bar and dares to say hello, your Argentinian date might just get very angry with them. Keep talking straight and he will either get the hint or leave. Turns out the Argentinians can be worse than the Angelenos.
Today at lunch my friend Trish told me I should write about my dating experiences in my blog.