By Tracy Achen Are you looking for some dating tips to ease your way back into the singles scene? Its uncharted territory, but it can be very rewarding to step outside your comfort zone.Dating after your divorce can be intimidating not only logistically, but also emotionally. Dating as a single parent is a whole different ballgame than it was before you had kids. It can sometimes seem like everyone has an opinion about whether you should date or not.
As you read through these suggestions, remember that children come in all ages and some may not even live at home.
The tips below will help you thread your way through some of the intricacies of dating a single parent. Ask yourself: Am I willing to be in a relationship with someone who has children? Am I willing to enter into a relationship with children?
This is important because you cannot separate the parent from the children. Often, the attention, time and resources that a parent devotes to his/her children can make one feel jealous or resentful. Single parents are likely to set basic boundaries with regards to their children. Sometimes when we meet the kids we want to make a good impression.
If you are dating a parent, their children will be part of the picture at some point. Are you self-assured and independent enough to accept that the children of your date will be the priority? These boundaries can range from time devoted to children, to dietary/nutrition concerns, to when late night guests are acceptable. If you are dating a single parent and your relationship has progressed to the point where you spend time together with the kids, notice how your date parents, the kids’ behaviors, and the family culture. Maybe we try too hard: excessively friendly, overly generous, or uncomfortably upbeat. It is natural that children may be somewhat leery of a new person in the mix.
The willingness to date or pursue a relationship with a single parent requires patience and understanding.
It can take time to develop a comfort zone, not only with a new person, but also with the kids and with the new person as a parent as well.
Given these statistics, if you are a single adult, it would not be surprising that you find yourself attracted to someone who has children.
Census, in 2010 there were close to 12 million single-family households in America.
These tips can help you get started on the right foot... But this is your life and you are the one who gets to live it, not someone else. As a single mom, it's easy for your whole life to be wrapped up in your kids.